When you’re coupled up, talking money can be tricky.
This quiz on your financial values will help you understand how you or your partner manage your money, so you can understand each other better and keep both your convos and relationship healthy. It —and this website —will help you:
Have confident conversations
Feel comfortable and confident having talks about your finances.
Feel prepared for the future
Get information on how to tackle big money moments together.
Know what’s healthy around love and money
Learn what a healthy financial relationship looks like.
Money in relationships
Talking to your partner about money is important, whether you have similar or different spending and saving styles. Here's some tips on starting the conversation.
Big (relationship) moments
Are you saving up to move in with your partner, thinking about adopting a pet, or planning for a holiday?
Let’s take it from the top, and get it straight. What should healthy financial behaviour in a relationship look like?
You're willing to talk about your money
The good, the bad, and the under-the-bed cash stash: when it comes to talking about money, you're willing to bare it all. While some topics might make you squirm or others leave you searching Google for answers, you ultimately recognise that money's far too important a topic to remain silent about.
You share or understand each other's financial values
While you don't need to see eye-to-eye on every little detail, sharing or respecting each other's financial values is important. It means you'll understand each other's financial habits and how they fit into the broader picture.
You make and manage financial decisions together
Good relationships are founded on equality. That means you should have an equal say on all things, no matter whether it's where you go for dinner or when you leave, but especially when it comes to how the two of you manage your finances.
Sometimes, what looks like a fair or normal way of dealing with money together might just be the opposite. Here are three major red flags - but be warned: they're often subtler than you'd think.
Your partner shuts down every money conversation
Communication is the lifeblood of relationships. If your partner's not willing to talk to you about debts, savings or income flow, even when you're splitting the rent, it's not a positive sign.
They make you feel like a fool
No-one likes being made to feel incompetent, especially about something as important as money. If your partner makes you doubt your financial ability - or worse, openly mocks it - it could be a sign they're trying to make you rely on their support.
Money responsibilities feel unfair
While we all want to support our partners, taking on too much financial responsibility can be a burden, both logistically and emotionally speaking. Moreover, it could negatively impact your own savings and financial future.